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    Meditation Practices For Beginners

    Want to start a meditation practice but unsure where to begin? Here, I list 7 types of meditation practices for beginners, including mindfulness, body scan, visualization, and chakra meditations. I also provide you with links to guided meditations you can try at your home today!

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    7 Types of Meditation Practices for Beginners


    If you’ve never meditated before, the thought of starting a meditation practice can feel kind of daunting. How do you start? When’s the best time to meditate? How are you supposed to sit, and what the heck do you do with your hands?

    Here’s my overarching answer to all questions about starting a meditation practice: Start where you are with what you have.

    There will never be a perfect time to start meditating, and yet, it is always the perfect time to start meditating. You don’t need any special equipment. You don’t need to wait for a certain time of day. And you definitely don’t need to cultivate the special superpower of being able to clear your brain of thoughts. At most, you just need yourself and a few minutes of quiet.

    Below, I’ve listed seven of the best types of meditation practices for beginners who are new to meditation. While you can definitely choose any of these in any order, I’d recommend starting with mindfulness meditation, as that lays the foundation for so many other types. At the end of each section, I link to associated meditations in the Insight Timer app. Please note that I have absolute no affiliation with the Insight Timer app, or any other meditation-based apps. I objectively chose Insight Timer to highlight for the following reasons:

    Insight Timer Features

    • It offers over 55,000 guided meditations and music tracks for meditation completely free. You can purchase a paid subscription to receive access to courses, but this is not required for meditations. You have total access the 1000s of meditations they provide for free. They also support over 3,000 meditation teachers on their app and website. This page offers great perspective into why I personally use and believe in this app.
    • Because it offers 1000s of free meditations, once you’ve tried your first few meditations, you can freely and easily explore other meditations. You can also bookmark ones that resonate most with you.
    • On top of meditations, it includes music, talks, and a timer feature that allows you to time and track your own unguided meditations. The app also lets you download meditations for offline use.
    • There’s a social media element that allows you to see others who meditated at the same time as you. You can even send them a short message, such as, “Thank you for meditating with me.” But if you don’t like this feature, you can alter your settings and remain private.
    • There’s also several categories broken down by benefits (sleep, healing, health, happiness) and practices (mindfulness, visualization, gentle repetition). Finally, there’s also Beginner Kits to help you when you’re just starting out. (Still, all free.)

    While I’ve linked to the meditations on Insight Timer’s webpage, I’d definitely recommend downloading the app on your phone for easier access.

    (Of course, if you find a different app that you want to use, go for it! You can even try multiple apps and see which one you like best. Also, you don’t need an app to meditate, but it’s definitely helpful when first starting out.)

    Meditation FAQs

    Now, before I get into the different types of meditation practices for beginners, here are some answers to a few more common questions that you may have:

    What time of day should I meditate?

    When I first started, I thought I needed to meditate as soon as I woke up because that’s what I had read in articles and blog posts. Meditating first thing in the morning is a great practice. But so is meditating an hour after you wake up. Or two hours later, at lunch time, before dinner, after dinner, or before bedtime. Basically, anytime you want. So the short answer: There is no right or wrong time to meditate. Do it when you have time and when it feels right for you.

    How should I sit when I meditate? And what do I do with my hands?

    In many of the guided meditations, the teacher will give you some instructions on how to sit, usually giving you a couple options. If you’re on the floor, you can sit cross-legged with your hands on your knees and your palms facing up or down. If you’re on a chair, you can sit with your back straight, hands on knees, legs uncrossed. And it may seem weird, but often, you can lay down as well. It took me a while to try a meditation laying down, but it truly gave me a different and enriching experience. Now, I’ll choose different positions depending on how I feel and what kind of meditation I’m doing.

    What if I can’t clear my mind of thoughts?

    This is one of the biggest misconceptions of meditation and why many people believe meditation isn’t for them. If you listen to just about any meditation teacher, they’ll tell you the same thing: Meditation is not about clearing your mind of thoughts. If it was, I’m not sure any of us, not even the most advanced meditators, would ever succeed. The last thing we want to do is suppress or evade our own thoughts.

    At its heart, meditation (especially practices rooted in mindfulness) is about non-judgmental observation, conscious awareness, and gently rooting ourselves in the present moment. When you’re meditating and your mind strays, don’t berate or speak down to yourself. You are not “wrong” for having a thought. Simply notice. When I first started, I’d use the phrase, “Ah, I’m having a thought.” I imagined I was observing something curious and interesting but that I didn’t need to hold onto. Allow yourself to become an objective observer of your own mind and accept that thought. Then, gently guide your brain back to the present moment.

    Below, I’ve written about seven different types of meditation practices for beginners. I’ve also included associated Insight Timer guided meditations (all 10 to 14 minutes long). Feel free to check them out or find your own meditations, using any of the great apps that are available. But again, you absolutely don’t need an app for meditation. I think they’re extra helpful for beginners, but the only thing you truly need to start meditating today is yourself.

    Mindfulness Meditation

    When I first started meditating, I primarily did mindfulness meditation practices. After trying out some beginner mindfulness practices using Insight Timer and Headspace, I shifted to doing unguided mindfulness meditations.

    So what exactly is mindfulness meditation? First, let’s look at the word mindfulness. Have you ever gotten lost in thought? Do you find yourself thinking about an event in the recent past and going over all the details? Do you replay old scenes over and over again, getting pulled into those past emotions? Or what about making up scenarios and obsessively playing out scenes of the future that haven’t even happened?

    In one of my previous jobs, as I got ready for work in the morning, I’d think about all the things my boss had done recently that upset me. Then, I’d make up things I imagined he’d do to upset me even more. I was angry, frustrated, and upset – all before even stepping foot out the door!

    Now, can you imagine living a life where you’re always living in the past or future – never in the present?

    (Read More About Mindfulness: What is Mindfulness? Plus 15 Powerful Quotes)

    This is where mindfulness comes in.

    Mindfulness is conscious awareness of the present moment through an unattached, objective, and unemotional lens. Mindfulness allows you to notice when your thoughts have strayed and to gently return them to this present moment. The key here is that you don’t judge yourself for your straying thoughts; it happens to everyone. You can simply notice that you’re having a thought and then release it without judgment.

    A common analogy is to think of it as clouds passing over you in the sky. Imagine you’re laying on the ground looking up at a perfectly blue sky, and a cloud passes above you. “Look, there’s a cloud,” you think. Then it floats out of your vision, and you let it go without attachment.

    In mindfulness meditation, you’re not trying to rid your head of thoughts; you simply notice with objective awareness when you’re having a thought, and then you let it go and return to this present moment.

    So how exactly do you stay grounded in this present moment?

    Most often, it’s through your breath. In many mindfulness practices, you simply keep your focus on your breath coming in and going out of your body. And when you find your thoughts going astray, you return your focus to your breath. In the beginning, it might help you to use numbers or a counting system. For example, for every inhale, you may think a silent one, and for every exhale, you think two. Or you can count to ten: every inhale is an odd number and every exhale is an even number. When you get to ten, you return back to one and start all over again.

    Insight Timer Guided Meditation Practices for Beginners:

    Kate James’ Mindful Awareness Meditation (just under 10 minutes) gently guides you through the act of bringing mindful awareness to your present experience. This is a really wonderful meditation for guiding you through the process of becoming an objective observer of yourself.

    Laurie J. Cameron’s Mindful Breathing With Compassion is a beautiful 10-minute practice that combines mindful breathing with a loving-kindness practice.

    Body Scan Meditation

    Body scan meditation is an extension of mindfulness in that it allows you to consciously notice how different parts of your body are feeling in the present moment without judgment.

    In a body scan meditation, you start at your feet and make your way up, paying attention to the way each body part feels. (If you prefer, you can start at your head and move downward.) Are you carrying tension in this particular body part? Are there any feelings or sensations? Don’t attach any value to your answers. For instance, if you’re feeling tension in your shoulders, don’t label this as bad. Just notice.

    Now, there are differing beliefs on what a person should do next. For some, the act of simply noticing is the goal of this meditation. The reason is that this grounds you in the present moment and cultivates a sense of mindfulness. Others go one step further by consciously releasing the tension they perceive. One way to do this is by breathing into the tension. As you exhale, visualize the tension leaving your body and evaporating into the air. Another technique is to actively tense up your muscles and then relax them. You might also visualize a wave of relaxation flowing through your body.

    While a body scan meditation can be done anytime, it’s especially beneficial in helping you to relax at nighttime. If you find yourself laying in bed at night unable to fall asleep, don’t try to suppress your thoughts. Instead, simply redirect your thoughts. You can do a body scan meditation right there in your bed. Simply relax your muscles and release the tension from each part of your body.

    Insight Timer Guided Meditation Practices for Beginners:

    Wendy Chan’s Mindful Body Scan (just under 11 minutes) is a simple but powerful meditation that gently guides you through noticing the different sensations in your body without any judgment or labeling the sensations as good or bad.

    Tara Brach is one of the most well-known meditation teachers both on and off the Insight Timer app. Her Basic Body Scan & Breath Awareness (11 minutes) is a perfect meditation for beginners.

    Loving Kindness Meditation

    Loving kindness meditations have become one of my unexpectedly favorite types of meditations. Why unexpected? To be honest, when I first read about the concept, I didn’t really get it. So I’m just supposed to wish goodwill for others? Of course that’s something I want to do always, but couldn’t I just inherently do that outside of meditation?

    It took actually experiencing my first loving kindness guided meditation to truly understand the gentle power in this practice.

    What is Loving Kindness?

    The goal of a loving kindness meditation is to extend kindness toward yourself and others in your life. In my first loving kindness guided meditation, I was instructed to visualize I was standing in front of myself. I looked myself in the eyes, and I repeated these words:

    May you be well . . . may you be happy . . . may you live with ease . . . may you know you’re always loved.

    Then, I was instructed to picture someone I loved and cherished deeply standing in front of me and to recite those same words. Next, I visualized someone who I sort of, kind of knew but who I didn’t have any positive or negative feelings toward, such as a grocery store cashier or a neighbor down the street. Again, I envisioned looking them in the eyes and repeating those words. Then, I was guided to envision someone I felt negative feelings toward, to look this person in the eyes, and to recite these same kind and loving words as well. And finally, I extended these words to the entire universe in which I am connected.

    There are many variations of a loving kindness meditation, but at their core, they all promote feelings of love and compassion. Like most types of meditation, I’d advise not to focus on this as the end goal, though. Don’t try to feel love and compassion. Just allow yourself to follow the process and open yourself up to whatever arises. Don’t place any judgement or value on your feelings. Just be.

    Beyond the Meditation

    One great thing about this practice is that you don’t have to be sitting alone in a dark room to practice loving kindness. If you’re a beginner, it helps to do a few guided loving kindness meditations to understand the process and follow some of the different variations of this meditation. Soon, though, you may find different opportunities to engage with these practices.

    For instance, when you’re getting ready in the morning and find yourself feeling stressed about the day ahead, you can look at yourself in the mirror and repeat words of loving kindness. If you have a boss who causes you to feel negative emotions, you can visualize looking them in the eyes and repeating these same words. This doesn’t mean that you agree with or accept the things you may not like about them. What it means is that you have the power to realign with your highest self and to choose love over resentment, anger, or pessimism.

    Insight Timer Guided Meditation Practices for Beginners:

    I love Vanessa Michele’s Loving Kindness For Yourself & Others (10 minutes) to cultivate a sense of love and compassion for yourself and the world around you.

    Camilla Sacre-Dallerup’s Loving Kindness and Compassion (10 1/2 minutes) meditation is a beautiful variation of a traditional loving kindness meditation.

    Visualization/Guided Imagery Meditation

    In a visualization meditation, you focus on a specific visual in your mind’s eye. If you’re doing a guided meditation, your instructor will gently guide you through a series of visuals that you follow in your mind. At its foundation, visualization meditations are still rooted in mindfulness. When you’re practicing a visualization meditation, you may find your mind wandering, thinking about the day ahead or noticing the very loud garbage truck outside your house. (I use that specific example because it happens to me nearly every Monday morning!) It’s okay if your mind wanders. Just notice, then allow yourself to return to the visualization.

    So in a visualization meditation, what exactly are you visualizing? This is where, if you’re someone who likes concrete directions and specific answers, you may get frustrated. Because the truth is, there’s an infinite amount of scenes you may visualize in your mind’s eye.

    For instance, I’ve done a lot of manifestation visualizations. Some of these guide me through visualizing a perfect day in my dream life, while others have taken me to golden waterfalls where abundance is infinite and always flowing. I’ve also done visualizations where I’ve floated down a gentle river and allowed myself to flow effortlessly with the water, trusting where the water takes me. I’ve visualized journeys into my own heart where I explore all of the dark and light inside of me. And I’ve also visualized standing in front of a beautiful ocean and releasing all of my hopes and dreams into the sea, entrusting the water with all of my heart’s desires.

    There are so many visualization meditations available to you, and so many different goals and reasons for why you might perform a visualization meditation, it’d be impossible to list them all here.

    The Key to Visualization

    A key for many visualization meditations is to not only see these scenes playing out in your mind but to experience them with all of your senses. If you find this to be difficult at first, it’s okay. This doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong or that you’re not “cut out” for this type of meditation. I encourage you to open yourself to the process and simply let it be whatever it is. It doesn’t have to be a big or overwhelming thing; I’ve experienced many incredible guided visualization meditations that were only ten minutes long.

    Insight Timer Guided Meditation Practices for Beginners:

    Carrie Suwal’s Attracting All That You Desire (10 1/2 minutes) is a powerful meditation for manifestation that includes both visualization and affirmations.

    My overall most-played meditation on the Insight Timer app is Rishika Anya’s Breaking Through Limiting ThoughtForms (just under 11 minutes). This is a powerful visualization meditation to help you break through limiting thoughts that no longer serve your ultimate wellbeing.

    Affirmations Meditation

    Affirmations meditations are generally pretty straightforward. These are guided meditations in which a teacher recites a series of affirmations, and you repeat these affirmations, either silently or aloud. Often times, a meditation dedicated to reciting affirmations will focus on a specific topic. Some of the guided affirmation meditations you may find include affirmations for abundance, self-love, worthiness, and health. You can also find morning affirmations specifically dedicated to cultivating a positive mindset for the day ahead. There are even affirmation meditations dedicated to specific topics such as childbirth.

    Usually, the teacher will advise you on how to follow along with these affirmations. Sometimes, instead of repeating them, you simply breathe into each one and feel them into your being.

    Note that you may encounter affirmations in other types of meditations as well. For instance, in a guided visualization meditation for manifestation, the teacher may include affirmations to affirm your worthiness of beautiful abundance in your life.

    Insight Timer Guided Meditation Practices for Beginners:

    Liza Colpa’s Manifestation & Affirmation Practice To Gain Confidence (12 minutes) is a perfect one for utilizing both visualization and affirmations to guide you in your personal growth. I absolutely love all of Liza’s meditations, so if you like this one, I’d definitely recommend checking out her others as well.

    Karen Wang’s Words of Affirmation (10 minutes) beautifully guides you through a series of affirmations for self-confidence and empowerment.

    Chakra Meditation

    Chakras are your body’s spiritual energy centers. When our chakras are unblocked, energy flows freely within our body, mind, and spirit, and we feel a sense of alignment and peacefulness. When a chakra is blocked, we feel imbalanced, and this often manifests in negative physical, emotional, and spiritual symptoms (anxiety, creativity blocks, and digestive issues, for instance).

    There’s truly so much to talk about when it comes to chakras, so I’ve created this beginner’s guide to understanding and unblocking your chakras. And if you want to learn more, here’s some further reading from one of my go-to sites, the Chopra Center.

    Chakra meditation usually focuses on unblocking any blocked chakras so energy can flow freely. Some meditations will focus on increasing awareness and unblocking one specific chakra, while others do an overview of all the chakras. Below is a list of the chakras, their associated colors, and their locations within your body:

    • Root: Red, at the base of your spine.
    • Sacral: Orange, at your lower abdomen.
    • Solar Plexus: Yellow, above your belly button, below the chest.
    • Heart: Green, at your heart.
    • Throat: Blue, in your throat area.
    • Third-eye: Indigo, on your forehead, between your eyebrows.
    • Crown: Violet, at the top of your head.

    If this is your first introduction to chakras, I’d recommend starting with a meditation that guides you through all of the chakras and their different colors. Once you feel like you have a good foundational understanding of chakras, you can search for guided meditations that focus on unblocking a specific chakra.

    Insight Timer Guided Meditation Practices for Beginners

    Dexter and Alessandrina’s Personal Transformation: Energy Centers Chakra Discovery is a 12-minute guided meditation that leads you through each chakra in your body and its associated color. It’s a really great one for beginners!

    Carrie Suwal, who I mentioned above in the Visualization Meditation section, has some beautiful chakra meditations that focus on trauma, depression, healing the heart, anxiety, and overall balancing. Note that most of these are a little longer than the others that I’ve listed, but if you’re drawn to gentle voices like I am, I think you’ll really love Carrie’s soft and tenderhearted guidance.

    Mantra Meditation

    Out of all the meditations I’ve listed here, I have the least amount of experience with mantra meditations. But I wanted to include it because it’s a great alternative to the standard mindfulness meditation. In a mantra meditation, you focus on a word or a single syllable (and sometimes a phrase) for the entirely of the meditation. If you focus on a word, this word has no meaning. You wouldn’t say something like love, kind, peace, or any other word you have a connection to. Often, this word may not even be in the same language you speak. Some common examples of syllables or words you may repeat include om and ram.

    (Okay, because I’m one that doesn’t like labeling anything in meditation as “right” or “wrong,” I concede that there are mantra meditations out there that will use a word that holds meaning to you, such as love or peace, and while you may receive a different type of experience, there is nothing inherently bad about this!)

    During your meditation, you’ll repeat your chosen mantra (or the one your instructor has provided for you) over and over again. There is no rush here. Keep a smooth, relaxed, even tone. Focus on the sound of the mantra, and when your mind wanders, bring yourself back to the sound, just as you would in a standard mindfulness meditation practice.

    As in all of the types of meditation listed here, you’ll likely find variations of this practice depending on the teacher. I’d recommend starting out with a guided meditation for this one, but after a couple times, this is one type of meditation that you may feel more comfortable trying without guidance.

    Insight Timer Guided Meditation Practices for Beginners:

    One of the first mantra meditations I ever tried was Dexter and Alessandrina’s Ganesha Mantra Meditation for Removing Obstacles (14 minutes). I’d recommend trying out some of the other meditation practices I’ve listed above before this one, but when you’re ready to try something different, this offers a really unique and powerful experience.

    Hannah Leatherbury’s Mantra of Peace is nine-minute meditation that uses a phrase in the Sanskrit language that translates to “Lead me from the unreal to the real; Lead me from darkness (ignorance) to light (wisdom); Lead me from death (limitation) to life everlasting (freedom).” She also has a beautiful five-minute Mantra of Wholeness.

    This is the first of several posts I’ll be releasing on meditation practices for beginners. If you have any specific questions or topics you’d like to see addressed, feel free to leave your requests in the comments below or send me a note through the Contact form. Also, be sure to subscribe to the newsletter to get weekly updates on new blog posts and receive an uplifting message in your inbox every Monday morning.

    If you want to read about the health benefits of meditation, be sure to check out my post, 10 Science-Backed Health Benefits of Meditation. And if you’d like to know a little more about my story and what meditation has done for me, you can read my post, 10 Things I’ve Learned From Daily Meditation.

    Looking for more tips and tricks?

    The incredibly talented Liz from Liz in Lotus has put together an awesome in-depth and comprehensive guide to all the basics of meditation for beginners! Her post includes tips on how to start a meditation practice and links to guided meditations (and more!). Check out Meditation Basics For Beginners: Benefits And Ultimate How-To Guide at Liz in Lotus today!

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    How to Overcome Negative Thoughts and Get Realigned

    Are you in a negative headspace and unable to find realignment? First, have compassion. This happens to all of us. But know that you are strong and powerful, and you are capable of overcoming this negativity and getting realigned with your highest and most authentic self. Here, I’ll show you how to overcome negative thoughts and find realignment when you’re in the midst of a “bad” day. This blueprint for how to overcome negative thoughts comes with four powerful steps you can do right now plus one bonus step. Know that you have the power to overcome negative thoughts and get realigned with your true self today.

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    How to Overcome Negative Thoughts

    Negative Thoughts and My “Bad” Night

    Recently, I found myself in the midst of a “bad” night.

    I’d fallen behind in creating content for my Instagram page, and I had nothing to post for the next day, or any of the upcoming days after that. I know that what I’m “supposed” to do is create a content calendar and have weeks of posts ready way ahead of time, but I’ve given myself the grace of not being perfectly organized as I grow my platform. Taking a one-week-at-a-time approach (sometimes, one day at a time) has allowed me to find my authentic voice while learning what resonates with the people reading my words. I didn’t want to just start my account assuming I already knew what people wanted and needed to hear. I set the intention to truly listen and reflect so that I could continually and consistently deliver content that matters.

    By taking this approach, I had to let go of control, and even more so, I had to let go of my worries. I used to wonder, “Will I have enough to talk about? Will I run out of things to say? What if I can’t find the right words or the right quotes? What will I do?” I consciously decided to release this anxiety, though, and just trust. I’ve trusted that I would always be guided to the right quotes and that I would always know what to say. This means that content calendars and schedules have had to wait for now and that I’ve truly had to learn how to let go of perfection and embrace the journey.

    And it’s always worked.

    Until Tuesday night.

    Due to household chores and some other tasks that needed to get done, I didn’t sit down to start designing a graphic for my post until nearly 8 PM. That may not seem that late, but every night, my boyfriend and I set our phones/tablets/laptops aside and hang out just the two of us for a couple hours, usually binge watching our latest obsession on Hulu and eating cookies. This time is a non-negotiable for me, so I wasn’t going to let my lack of an Instagram post take away from it.

    The problem was, as I sat down to work on my graphic, I had absolutely no idea what quote or words I wanted to use or what message I wanted to deliver.

    I set a high standard for myself, so I can’t just throw something together and post it on my Instagram feed and hope it doesn’t suck. This means that I often search through quotes and wait for my inner knowing to say, “Yes, that’s it,” and then I work on the visuals and carefully craft the caption. I have a long list of quotes that inspire me, but as I was scrolling through them, nothing was clicking. So I did a few Google searches and found one that I figured was pretty good. I didn’t get that yes moment, but I decided I was running out of time, so I just went for it. But then when it came to the visuals, nothing was coming together. I re-did the font and graphics a couple hundred times, becoming more and more frustrated by the minute.

    Anxiety grew hotter in my chest.

    I started snapping at my boyfriend for no reason.

    I was in a bad mental space, and I couldn’t shake myself out of it.

    Overcoming My Negative Thoughts

    As the minutes passed and this mental battle started to cut into our sacred Hulu-and-Cookies time, I realized I had two choices: I could continue to drown in my frustration, or I could use the mindfulness tools I’ve acquired to overcome this negative mindset.

    I chose the latter.

    By not allowing my negative mindset to seep into the rest of my night, I was able to put my tablet and laptop aside and have a really good night, watching 90s sci-fi TV and eating Oreos on the couch with the person I cherish most in this world. I went to bed feeling grateful and at peace, and when I woke up the next morning, I knew exactly the words to say on my Instagram post.

    These moments of negativity and frustration happen to all of us, even those of us who write about joy, gratitude, self belief, abundance, and living your dream life for a living. The key is recognizing when these moments are occurring and consciously deciding to choose differently. Of course, this is easy to say, but how exactly do you actually go about doing this?

    You can’t always control your external world, but you can control your reactions to it. Here, I’ll show you exactly how to overcome negative thoughts and get realigned with your truest self. When you find yourself in the midst of an “off” day or night, the following steps will help you to realign with your highest self, take back your power, and give you the confidence to know that you can always overcome any mental hurdle.

    Step 1: Reaffirm Your Worthiness

    My worthiness is not defined by an Instagram post.

    Those were the words I reminded myself of as I convinced myself to tuck away the iPad for the night.

    When you’re uber-focused on something, it can be easy to get so caught up in the details, you miss the bigger picture. And when this happens, we become misaligned with our highest and authentic self.

    For me, this was all because of a single Instagram post, but this can apply to almost any situation that gets you out of alignment. Maybe there’s a task that you can’t seem to get right. Maybe a conversation with a friend left you feeling badly. Or maybe your bank account is lower than you’d like, and a bill pay reminder just hit your inbox.

    No matter what the situation is, allow yourself to step back for just a moment, and ask yourself, “Does this have any effect on my worthiness?”

    Hint: The answer is no.

    You are worthy no matter how you fare in that task.

    You are worthy no matter how that conversation with the friend went or how it made you feel after.

    And you are worthy no matter how much money is in your bank account.

    You are worthy, and you are deserving, and you are enough.

    In this moment, no matter how strong the pull towards the negative is, allow yourself to affirm your worthiness. Have a mental list of positive affirmations ready for just these situations.

    Examples of Affirmations

    • I am worthy.
    • I am enough.
    • Joy is my birthright.
    • I deserve to feel good.
    • I know deep, inner peace, and I allow myself to feel that peace right now.
    • Everything that happens is for my highest good.
    • I am doing the best I can.
    • I am safe and supported, rooted in the now.
    • No matter what happens, I am always worthy, always enough, and always deserving of joy, love, freedom, and peace.

    If you need help coming up with some uplifting affirmations to reaffirm your innate worthiness, you can download my free ebook, 400 Powerful Affirmations to Uplift, Inspire, and Empower Your Highest Self.

    Step 2: Allow Yourself to Receive Love

    This goes hand-in-hand with reaffirming your worthiness.

    When we’re in the midst of a negative mindset, we can allow that moment to become bigger than it is. And if you’re as hard on yourself as I am on myself, you may actually make yourself feel even worse because you inherently know that this negativity is “wrong,” so you punish yourself for the very act of feeling bad.

    Even when I was in the midst of my frustration the other night, I was able to pull out one of my strongest and most important tools for self-care: I allowed myself to accept and receive love.

    Who am I accepting love from? Everyone and everything. I accept and receive love from myself. From my family and friends. From my boyfriend. And from the universe. This isn’t a physical act. It’s simply remembering how many people love me and allowing myself to feel it in that moment. I acknowledged that even though I was frustrated and anxious, I was still allowed to be loved. No negative mindset can ever take that away from me. Or from you. Know that it’s okay to not feel positive, upbeat, and cheery all the time. You still get to be loved anyway, no matter what.

    Step 3: Ask Questions

    What is the lesson in this moment?

    In what ways is this hardship a gift?

    How would my highest self react in this situation?

    These are a few of the questions I asked myself as I felt immersed in negativity. My brain is always seeking lessons, especially when things aren’t going my way. That doesn’t mean I always have the answers right away. I didn’t know in that moment how the story would unfold or where my path was leading me. But just the very act of seeking lessons began to shift my consciousness from anxious to curious.

    Maybe I’m supposed to learn to keep trusting even when nothing is going right.

    Maybe I’m supposed to learn that it’s okay to skip a day on Instagram.

    Or maybe I’m supposed to learn how to reconnect with my authentic self when I’m feeling lost.

    Maybe I’m supposed to learn to let go and just believe.

    There’s something empowering when you start to have these kinds of thoughts. Instead of a “Why me?” mentality, you begin saying, “Ah, I see. I’m growing more resilient. I get to overcome this and become stronger. And now I have a new tool in my toolbox to get me through these moments. This is a gift. I’m grateful for this experience because it helps me to grow.”

    And then, when you think about how your highest and most authentic self would handle this situation, you’re reminded of your own innate strength. I know that my highest self isn’t stressed about an Instagram post. She is aligned with feelings of joy and love, and she always has her eyes focused toward the light. She knows deep inner peace, and that peace allows her to overcome any situation with grace and compassion.

    Step 4: Recite Your Mantra

    A while back, I had written an Abraham Hicks quote on the whiteboard in my office. Every morning, I’d read it softly under my breath. Sometimes, in the middle of a work day, I’d look up and repeat it to myself again. Eventually, I had recited it so many times, I had memorized every word. I often found myself going back to these words in moments of joy and in moments of struggle. I would even write them while journaling in the morning, just to get realigned as I started my day:

    I’m on the path. The path is unfolding. It will reveal itself to me in its perfect timing, and all is really well.

    For me, these words have profound meaning. They remind me that I’m on a journey, and at this moment in my journey, I am exactly where I need to be. I may not be able to see the big picture right now, but one day I’ll look back and understand how every moment of joy and frustration and how every success and seeming failure were all gifts leading me to something beautiful. It reminds me that this moment right now is a gift. That hardships can be miracles when you change your perspective. That everything is really okay.

    How to Use Mantras

    If you have a mantra that means something important to you that you can use during these times, softly recite it either in your head or out loud. Repeat it as many times as you need. Allow yourself to really feel the words. And gently allow these words to guide and ground you.

    If you don’t have a mantra, I’d recommend taking some time to find the words that resonate with you. You might find these words within your own mind through journaling or meditation, or a Google or Pinterest search might lead you to them. Know that the mantra can be as short or as long as necessary. Before I began reciting the Abraham Hicks quote, I used the simple mantra, “All is well.”

    Here’s a list of mantras to get you started. Read through them slowly and see if any resonate with you:

    Mantras to Overcome Negative Thoughts

    • All is well.
    • This too shall pass.
    • I am breathing in peace. I am breathing out anxiety.
    • Happiness is my birthright. I deserve happiness. I choose happiness.
    • Everything is always working out for me.
    • Everything is always working for my highest good.
    • I have faith.
    • I am always headed in the right direction.
    • All things wanted are being answered. (Another Abraham Hicks quote)
    • This will pass, and I will be better for it. (Adapted from an Abraham Hicks quote)
    • I am safe and supported, rooted in the now.

    Bonus Step: Meditate

    In the midst of my frustration the other night, the very first thing I did was meditate for five minutes. I almost didn’t. I started telling myself it was too late and I didn’t have time. But then I did (thanks to my boyfriend’s encouragement and offering to meditate with me), and I’m really grateful for his gentle nudge.

    I didn’t want to write this as the first step because I don’t want anyone to see meditate and think that these steps aren’t for them. If you don’t meditate, that’s okay. These steps are for everyone.

    If you’re home or in a safe place, see if you can get away for a few minutes to find a quiet spot and close your eyes. Take as much or as little time as you need. If you have a go-to guided meditation that resonates with you, you can listen to it, but it’s also worthwhile to just sit and focus on your breath for several minutes. You know what works best for you. I find that even five minutes of meditation gets me in the right frame of mind to realign with myself.

    Don’t Meditate? Try Breathing Exercises

    If you don’t meditate, or if you’re not in a spot where you’d feel safe or comfortable meditating, simple breath work practices can have a huge benefit. Breathing from your belly, inhale for four seconds. Hold your breath at the top for another four seconds. Then exhale for four seconds. If you’re comfortable, you can try a variation of this, where you inhale for four seconds, hold your breath at the top for seven seconds, then exhale for eight seconds. You can breathe through your nose or mouth, whatever is most comfortable for you. Even if all you can do is take a couple seconds for a few slow, conscious inhales and exhales, that’s okay. Allow yourself to focus on your breathing, grounding yourself in this present moment.

    If you’re interested in meditation but aren’t sure where to start, check out my post, 7 Types of Meditation Practices for Beginners. And to explore more meditations, here’s some free guided meditations, including breathing meditations, produced by UCLA Health. Finally, if you want to learn more about the health benefits of meditation, check out the 10 Science-Backed Health Benefits of Meditation.

    What do you do when you find yourself feeling frustrated, overwhelmed, and/or out of alignment? Do you have any tips on how to overcome negative thoughts? If you’ve found other techniques useful, I’d love to hear. And if you have questions about how to overcome negative thoughts, leave a comment or reach out through Instagram. I’m always here to support and help you in your journey to aligning with your highest self and living the life of your dreams.

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